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Phoenix, Arizona, United States
Retro wifey, mommy to a princess, editor, PETA fanatic, and I Love Lucy!

Saturday, March 21, 2015


I've been blessed in so many ways in my life, and I've also had many struggles in my life.  Through all my life, I have always tried to keep the attitude that "giving" was the best way.  It's what I was taught.  I've always been a giver.  Never a taker.  I've always been grateful for my blessings in my life.  I try to keep that motto to my core.

In my life, sometimes giving and over-giving was my downfall, because I was giving to the wrong people.  It turned me into a bitter person, a very non-trusting person, though it didn't change my attitude to continue to help others.

I have always been a hard worker for my own money, almost 22 years at my career.  Though my career has gone a bit (actually A LOT) downhill lately, I am not sure how much longer I will be hanging in there.  But that's for another blog, another day. 

My husband is a damn hard worker, too.  He works so much, I barely recognize him sometimes.  I know he does it for his family, me and our daughter, and I couldn't ask for more than the work ethic that he has. 

I realize how hard people work for their money!  That is my point.

Last year, I went part-time at my job.  Mostly for our daughter, but partly because I am burned out on the demands and changes and the pay cuts they have made.  With going part-time, I lost all my seniority, my paid time off, and our health insurance.  So I did what any adult would do, I paid off our debts, our vehicles, and signed up for the Affordable Healthcare so we have health insurance.

Things had been going well since I went part-time, until not one, not two, but three snags hit us.  Okay, not so much snags as much as BIG PROBLEMS, with our home.

1.  A/C unit went out on the house.

2.  Plumbing issue.

3.  Need a new roof.

Of those three, the biggest issue of course was the AC unit.  I live in Phoenix, Arizona.  (They don't call us The Valley of The Sun for no reason).  We basically live in hell (same zip code anyway)!  It's hot more than it's cool.  Nuff said.

We knew when we received our income tax money this year, we could take care of all our issues.  We didn't "sweat" it too much...no pun intended.

Recently, we found ourselves in a situation where we didn't get our income tax money back as quickly as we normally do every year (because we enrolled in the Affordable Healthcare Act and the government didn't have their shit together.  No other way to describe that). 

My husband and I debated taking a loan out, at least for the AC unit.  The rest could wait until our money gets here.  If you know my husband, he HATES anything that spells I.N.T.E.R.E.S.T.  He is a cash and debit kinda guy. 

I don't ever go around telling people our personal problems.  I don't broadcast my business on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, none of that. 

Recently, however, I had the absolute privilege to host 2 wonderful friends over for brunch while one of them was in town.  Negs and I live here in Arizona.  Lisa lives in another state.  We like to refer to ourselves as the "ninjas!"  We are pretty notorious on Facebook for being the "3 ninjas."  A title we ALL wear proudly!

Myself and Ninja Neggie.
(Of note, my husband is NOT the best photographer)....sorry honey!

The three ninjas!  Thank you Ninja Lisa for our honorary ninja necklaces! 
The last time I saw Ninja Negs before the brunch...well this is how I remember Ninja Negs:


The beauty of Facebook for me is all the old memories.  Reconnecting with old friends from high school has been one of the best parts!  Ninja Negs is always there everyday to make me laugh.  He is smart, funny, a true joy to be around, and also he can take a damn good punch from a couple of ninja chicks like Lisa and myself.  I love his laugh, his positive outlook on life, the way he handles himself, and especially his confidence in knowing what he is looking for in his life.  That makes him EXTRA special!

We had such a great afternoon here during the brunch.  Thank you Lisa for making the drive, and thank you for introducing us to your wonderful son.  He liked my cooking, he's a keeper! 

Later in the day, and I don't know how, we ended up on the subject of income taxes, the AC unit going kaput, going to the bank to get a loan, etc, etc.  It was just general conversation.  Nothing serious.

The next morning, I woke up to a very long message from my Ninja Negs giving the name and number of a guy he wanted me to call and get him out to put the AC on the house.  Of course, I immediately declined.  I felt so overwhelmed.  You don't understand, I am the "giver!"  I don't take.  I don't receive. 

He continued to reassure me that this wasn't about monetary issues.  He knows we are good for the money.  He truly wanted to do this for MY FAMILY.  He genuinely wanted to help my family, and he wanted it to be done sooner than later and not pay interest on a loan.  (((MOUTH WIDE OPEN RIGHT NOW)))!

How?  How does someone like me accept such a generous offer?  I am not used to such acts of kindness in my life. 

I discussed this wonderfully generous offer with my husband that my ninja was offering, and he was absolutely speechless.  He didn't even know what to say.  He, too, has been used to "takers" in his life, always being the giver in his family, that he didn't know how to react to such a kindness being bestowed upon us.  

Because we know what is happening with our income tax and why our refund is going to be a slower process this year, we did humbly accept his offer.

Within 1 day, 1 day, he had the ball rolling in motion and the new unit was here!!  

 Goodbye old unit, you've been good to us....BUT....

HELLO new AC unit...why yes, YOU can live here!!!

                            Shhhhhh!  Did you hear that?  The AC just kicked on.  Cooooooooool!

I heard the saying once that gratitude is like a muscle; the more we do with it, the stronger it gets.

There are not enough words in the dictionary to thank this wonderful man who did this act of kindness for my family, especially before it started to get too hot here.  Lending us this money so we didn't have to pay any interest to a bank is just absolutely phenomenal.  I won't say how much money this was, but you can only imagine.  This is NOT cheap. 

He's done even more for us, besides this HUGE act of monetary kindness, than he even knows.  He restored our faith in humanity, to continue to see the good in people.  It's been a long, long time since someone cared about us for a change and not the other way around.  How do you say thank you?  How do you show how overwhelmed inside your heart is?  How it goes deep into your soul.  The flow of my tears.  I've spent every single day this week thanking him over and over again, only for him to again reassure me that he offered because he wanted to and he knows he will get his money back.

Ninja Negs, you are OUR HERO!

Oh, a couple of other people also wanted to share their gratitude:  

"True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils.  Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island.  To find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing." 

We love you Ninja Neggie, our HERO!