When I was growing up, we NEVER had a bill collector call our house. There were a lot of things my parents taught my sister, brother and I; most importantly, we were shown by example about paying your bills on time and the importance of credit and its usage. People hit hard times, understandable. But what about people who just "on purpose" know they NEVER have any intention of paying that bill before they even make it. That's SO NOT ATTRACTIVE!
Over the span of years, the majority of my husband's family has lived with us at some point or another. Some only stayed a couple of days, some stayed a couple of weeks, some stayed for a month, and others stayed until they flat wore out their welcome!
I don't mind helping people out, until you begin to know you are being fully taken advantage of. I am not as kind-hearted by nature as Junebug is regarding the plight of his family. I grew up in a family where friends and loved ones came to visit from out of town for a week or two, or just stayed for a weekend perhaps...but NEVER did anyone ever live with us. Junebug, however, comes from a "different world" than I do. He had lots of brothers, a sister, a mom, plenty of step-father's, cousins, uncles, aunts, friends, and friends of friends who lived with them their whole life. I am not used to that! Again, I am not blind to people's plight and the fact that people do fall on hard times. To give credit where credit is due, not ALL of Junebug's family that came to stay here intended to "use" us, they really did get a job immediately and got their own apartments. So with that said, lets talk about the ones who mooch, mooch, mooch.
I guess the way I was raised, I just could never even imagine going to someone elses home and treating it as a, "oh well, ain't mine, don't have to respect it or you" type attitude. Rude, NO manners, break shit, borrow shit, steal shit. Is this an ongoing fight between me and Bug, you betcha it is!!! I feel like his family is draining to him. His motto about his family has always been "I can fix it, I can fix them." None of them have his character, strength or decency. He must be like "his" father; his mother ran him off when Bug was 3, but I've heard stories that he was a good man!
Without fail, whoever comes to stay here, don't matter if it was a week or a month, they use our address and home phone number for EVERYTHING! They go out and run up hospital bills, car payments, cell phones, IRS, evictions from old apartments, and who freakin knows what else....BUT NEVER PAY...NEVER had any intention of paying! Enter the bill collectors calling MY HOUSE!
Now if you have ever in your life had a bill collector call you, it's not pretty. First of all, the person they want isn't gonna be me or Bug, so we always start off with kindness and let them know we are not that person, that person does not reside here, did temporarily live here (but NEVER again). That is not satisfactory to a bill collector, however. So, now we have to get a little higher toned in our voice with the bill collector, yet still with some politeness. I am happy to give you what information I know about where you might find that specific person, BUT AGAIN...bill collectors still believe you are lying to them and that in fact YOU are that person they are looking for. I have had a few of these collection agencies that will take the information and say, "sorry to have bothered you." BUT MOST DON'T!
I, in fact, recently had an attorney call my home. He told me the name of the person he was looking for, who is one of my husband's family members. I told him that person no longer lives in my home. He then went on to tell me more information about myself and Junebug than someone who had our credit file sitting in front of them could have known about me and my husband's personal information!!!!!! He knew where we worked, how long we've owned our home, just really super personal information. I immediately was furious! I wanted to know what we had to do with any of her BULLSHIT past due bills and evictions! I immediately told him I would be reporting his law firm to the county attorney's office. NOW the tables were turned. He had a whole different 'tude after that with me. He explained to me that he in fact did do a background check on a website regarding me and my husband. Legal, I know!
After a lot of back and forth, he apologized. I didn't accept. Sneaky tactics! You want me to prove to you who I am and that I am not her? Are you kidding me? I was hot under the collar, still bitchin about it today as you can see, and this happened 3 weeks ago! I received a letter in the mail (I mean after all he had my address too) from the attorney 2 days after our phone conversation, with another apology. I didn't follow through with calling the county attorney, only because these websites offer information about you whether you like it or not. Bummer for us who pay our bills...
Thought I'd add a little "funny" from back in the day about bill collectors:
|Hubby has this pic tattooed on his arm...ooh la la♥|
|Me and Auntie Big Lois|
|Tryin to be cool and take my own pic|
I would be remiss if I didn't mention her! On the other hand, I sometimes feel like the "I Love Lucy" episode when Lucy and Ricky try not to brag about little Ricky so much and try not to show off his pictures. Of course it didn't work on the show, and it certainly doesn't apply here either. I cannot help myself! She is babbling away these days and if you babble back with her, she will get louder and louder and louder, until we are both screaming at the top of our lungs. I don't know what we're sayin, but she sure thinks it's funny. I am going to try to record some of that this weekend.
|Always on the move...|
|Follows me everywhere I go...|
|I ♥ feetie jammies|
|Watchin Surfs Up with Big Daddy...|
|Speaks for itself....|
SIDEBAR: WE SAW THE MOVIE GROWN-UPS THIS PAST WEEKEND.....DARN FUNNY!